What we are about
The UK social care and education system is failing our children. Parents voices are not valued and their in-depth knowledge of their child is not used to inform professionals. Parents report that they are made to feel worthless and admitting that they are struggling are not offered support by social workers in fact its reported that social workers will use this as evidence against the parent. Its been reported that social workers will use parents vulnerabilities against them, with no offer of support or guidance to a solution. Parents report that social workers make them feel like a second class citizen who have no rights. it's time for change, it's time to break parents free from the constant judgement and blame by professionals and society as a whole. We need to have support that all parents can access. Parents who access support or seeking education with the drive to be a better parent needs to be seen as a positive thing. In the current climate parents often feel like they are failing as a parent if the need support and could lead to a referral to social care. Parents need to break free from this adverse treatment and we need to empower them to show their strength and importance. Help them shine and demand to be treated with respect. parents know powerful in-depth knowledge about their children. if we are so concerned about safeguarding children we need to help parents shine as they are the foundation to a happy healthy safe and nurtured children. it's time for safe guarding to recognize that early intervention should start with the parents. Consider the difference If parents are healthy, mentally well and educated on the importance of their role as a parent. If parents could work through past truma, and given tools to help them cope with things they struggle with, understand how behaviors and emotions that they struggle to control would have a derrameal effect of their child was exposed to this could. What if we taught children school importance of reflection self-awareness and their power to change. If we used meditation, mindfulness, positive thinking as a way of life, making sure time for reflection and meditation is part of the daily routine. Also if a situation occurs where conflict between the pupils, separate them ask them to sit somewhere quiet on their own and reflect on the situation, ask them to emphasize about the how the other person is feeling try and to reflect on if they could have behaved differently.
Parents are left unsuported dealing with the power impalcane brought on by the prosess of multy agnecy who work together. We want to put a stop to this and help aprents through this prosess.
The aim is to build a positive empowering advocacy service for parents who are faced with social care intervention. The services we aim to provide will include access for parents to be supported by an independent advocate who is not part of social services and can help them understand social care intervention. This will be available to parents when social care first acts on a referral or a concern raised about their children. Advocates will be knowledgeable about social care law and the rights of the parent. They will help you understand the process and support you to voice your opinion and make sure that you are not treated badly and make sure your rights are not overlooked
We believe in treating parents right, we understand that they are the experts when it comes to knowledge about their children. We believe that parents want to provide a happy and secure life for their children. Working with parents without blame or judgment, as parenting is the hardest and most important job you could ever do. We believe that parents want to make positive changes as they love their children and want the very best for them. parents who are empowered to identify and resolve their own struggles will not only become confident they will know that they are capable and resilient. The parents are the foundation and essentially hold the keys to their child's future. This is why we understand the importance of how we respond to a parent in crisis or needing support. responding with humility, empathy and nurturing growth and change will then be passed on to their children. We all never stop learning, trying to improve ourselves by learning from our mistakes and shortcomings. We believe in the power of positivity, uplifting people; everyone deserves respect and understanding and the belief that they are able to make positive changes for their children.
family support to stay together
My story
As a single parent and former children and family social worker, I experienced the system's flaws firsthand on both sides. I no longer work as a social worker, about 6 years ago I experienced a mental health crisis, this was in response to being suspended from my job while they investigated the referrals regarding my son who was 6 years old at the time. My son was placed on a child protection plan. I know I have a unique understanding of both sides of the system and have a strong feeling about supporting parents and changing the rate of children who are removed from their families. When my son was placed on a child protection plan. Despite my professional background and commitment to ethical practice—which included working in partnership with parents empowering to make positive changes within their family unit and prioritizing family unity.
My history
I was shocked by the judgmental and unsupportive treatment I received. This contrasted sharply with my belief in empathetic, anti-oppressive social work, a principle I upheld during my seven years in the field. I was often told I was not cut out for child protection as I was "too nice" and had "too much faith" in families to change.
My experience highlighted a systemic issue where social workers were encouraged to presume guilt and focus on removals rather than support, contradicting the profession's code of conduct and ethics. I believe parents who seek help should be commended, not judged, as acknowledging difficulties is the first step to
Its time to rise up and break free from adversity
The Penex is a mythical beimg that represnts our mission and goals to change they way parents have been struggling on their own . We used to say it takes a village to rase a child, what happen to childen being everyonesr esopnsibity, where communitys cpme tpgether nad support each other. Parents are blamed for not being able to meet a cgilds needs and are not offered support areund this. They report feeling like they are redused to ashes when social care gets involved. Parents its time to rase from the ashes and show your strength knowlage and imprthance in your chilfdrens life and future. You should be treated with respect and given the resorses and suppotrto make postive cahnages. Its your time to stand up for your rights, have the confidence to challenge oppresive practice , do not stand for unjust treatment and demand that your child recives a service that meets their need , a srvice that is lead by their best intrests.
I Need A Team
Its only myself at the moment. This is my first step towards gathering a team of advocats and supporting parents when they need us most. Here are what i can offer through this website currently and also all the support services I woud like to be able to offer. Please tell me what you think and also i encurage you to also use this website to prpose ideas and ask for peple opinion. Please use this spcae as networking platform. Help me build an amazing team with skills that can help build a robust and sucseful Communty led support agency.
Committed to postive change for families
I do not run this service yet, this is a website that I can hopefully use as a marketing tool, gathering parents and families thoughts and ideas about this service. The website also has a blog and I'd love to hear your thoughts though there. Asso id like to offer advice and guidance as much as I can, so please contact me either on the blog or if you want to remain private then i do have an email address which I can respond back to you. I would really love to be of any help to you, so please do be shy, honestly i will not judge or pass on information. I want this to be a safe space where parents can speak openly and honestly knowing that they will not be judged. I will only allow people who truly understand and have been through similar situations. This space is somewhere to off load and also in the blog we advise each other. While I don't currently offer this service, this website serves as a marketing tool to gather thoughts and ideas from parents and families. I encourage you to share your insights on the blog, where I'd also love to offer advice and guidance. Please feel free to contact me there, or if you prefer privacy, you can reach me via email. I genuinely want to help, so please don't hesitate to reach out; I promise confidentiality and a judgment-free space. This community is for those who truly understand and have experienced similar situations, offering a place to unburden and advise each other on the blog.
Support through the education system
Id ike to offer support for parents struggling with getting an education that mets their need. Trying to navigate how to access support through school, dealing with their child being permanently excluded. All this support can come from other parents, who know these problems through their own lived expirance
Share your ideas
Have an idea that you d like to share and propos. get feedback from this communty. This is a spac efor networking ad building somethig that will empower and uplift groups in the comunit
Create short couses for online and run for the commuity and proffetionals
d also like to create short courses, online or in person. Id like to create courses for professionals, to make them reflect on their practise and views of parents. I'd also like to make a short course for parents who have social care involvement. To cover what to excerpt, their rights and an explanation of all the documents, assessments meeting and stages of the involvement.